Complain. Complain. Complain. This is the battle cry of people who believe they are victims to life. They complain about the government; they complain about their jobs, they complain about taxes, and they complain about their spouses. There are no subjects that are immune to complains. If you are being a person who follows this path, choose to let go of your complaining. Anytime you are complaining, you are focusing on “what is wrong”, and you are failing to see the “good” in the situation. Even worst, you are using your energy to focus on things that you do not desire to experience, and you are not experiencing the peace and joy that comes with not complaining. When you make a decision to let go of complaining and stay committed to it, you will see noticeable improvements in your relationships, your career, your ability to take action on your goals and dreams, and just about every area of your life. You will no longer see life the same way because you would have removed a source of negativity from your words and from your mind.
If you find yourself complaining, here are two tips you can use to let it go:
1. Resolve the issue. If you have an issue with a person or activity you are doing, speak to the person who can actually do something about the situation. No longer complain to other people who have no authority to resolve the issue. For example, if your employer requests you to work on the weekend and you desire to spend time with your family, do not complain to your spouse, coworkers, or your friends. Go speak directly to your employer about the issue.
2. Change your attitude about the issue or situation. Anytime you encounter an issue or situation that appears to be “wrong” to you, ask yourself “what is right about this situation or issue?” When you do this, you will see it from a different perspective. If you are being controlled by the ego, you will probably say nothing is right about it, but keeping asking yourself this question until you begin to see it differently. As you do, you will begin to change your attitude and perspective about it. For example, if a police officer tickets you for running a red traffic light, you may initially see no good in it. But as you keep looking for the good, you may notice that the police was protecting you from causing an automobile accident. Even better, you may feel that God is protecting you and keeping you safe. When this occurs, you will go from complaining to feeling grateful.
If you follow these two tips, you will notice a dramatic change in your life, so use them and start living the complaint free life.